Seeking Lesbian and Trans Families for Shared Breastfeeding Research

December 16th, 2011

Hello, all. This winter I’ll be wrapping up my research project for my BS in Midwifery. This means I’ve done all the preliminary work, and I’m ready to do the actual research!

My project is on shared breastfeeding, also called co-nursing, in queer families. To participate, families need to have two parents actively breastfeeding the baby. Sometimes this happens naturally, when the non-gestational parent is still nursing an older sibling and just adds in the new baby. But it can be intentional, with the non-gestational parent inducing lactation using a combination of pumping, herbs, and medications.

Have you and your partner shared breastfeeding of your little darling? If so, I’d love to hear from you. I have a questionnaire you can fill out! And if you’re looking for extra credit, I’m also collecting short essays/ stories from parents about their experience with shared breastfeeding, with the goal of publication in the future.

Most of the participants I have found are lesbian couples, although I would like to include families wherein one or both parents identify as transgender or genderqueer. I have gotten several responses from mamas who shared breastfeeding with someone other than a partner, and while I think that’s awesome, my research is looking at how co-nursing affects the relationship between the parents, so I’m really only looking for lesbian and queer families. Okay, I’d also include a family in which a biologically male daddy induces lactation!

If you think you might be eligible, or to find out more, please contact me via email: research@turningtidesmidwifery.com

And please check back in the future: I intend to post the results of my research right here.

Robin Lim: Hero of the Year!

December 12th, 2011

Today, midwives and mothers everywhere can celebrate Robin Lim’s amazing and well-deserved win of CNN’s 2011 Hero of the Year award.

Robin offers midwifery services free of charge to Indonesian women who would otherwise not be able to afford prenatal care or a skilled birth attendant.  For her work at Bumi Sehat Birth Center in Bali, she has been recognized as their “Everyday person changing the world.”  The direct benefit is that Robin gets $250,000 for Bumi Sehat, and I couldn’t imagine a more deserving organization.  However, I’m much more excited about the secondary benefits.

Robin Lim and Bumi Sehat are all over the media right now.  This means that potential donors are more likely to notice and make contributions of their own.  But it also means that folks who may not know much about midwives are getting the opportunity to learn more.  And that’s good for all of us.

I’m not sure whether Robin is interested in being the new spokesperson for midwifery, but right now, she is the most famous midwife on earth.  For the past few decades, Ina May Gaskin * has been the face and the name that comes to mind for many people when talking about midwives and homebirth.  But it looks as if it might be Robin’s turn.  What could this mean for the PR of midwifery?  Ina May’s is a grasssroots midwifery, born in the 70′s and raised on a commune in Tennessee.  Robin’s midwifery is about serving not the self-selected hippie mamas, but the most needy.  Ina May brought the idea of choice and empowerment to the US birthing scene, but Robin may help people see that midwifery is for everyone: cost-effective healthcare that saves lives…while still offering choice and empowerment.

Okay, I have to go deliver a placenta and do a postpartum massage; I wanted to get something out there, and may elaborate later, but this is good for now.

*Interestingly, Ina May also won an award this month!  The Right Livelihood Award clearly didn’t get as much press as CNN’s, but I love that she’s still so passionate and actively working for parents and babies.

“Pregnancy Massage Tables” vs. Pregnancy Massage Positioning

November 28th, 2011

One of the most common questions I get about pregnancy massage is whether I use one of those fancy tables where you get to lie on your belly even if you’re 42 weeks pregnant.

My short answer is no.

Although when you’re pregnant it seems like a miracle to be able to lie face-down, those so-called pregnancy massage tables ultimately do not serve you well, and can actually cause injury to your body or even your baby.

My reasons have to do with the mechanics of the spine and abdomen. Pregnancy massage tables are only able to be customized to a certain degree, which means you will likely be lying over a hole that’s too wide, too narrow, too deep or too shallow for your body at any given stage in your pregnancy. Essentially, while lying face-down, there are two situations:

1.  The gap is loose and does not apply pressure on your belly, but the weight of your uterus will be pulling your abdomen into the hole, increasing the curve of your lumbar spine and adding to the stress on your sacral and uterine ligaments. This effect is increased even further if a massage therapist were to press down, working the muscles of your lower back. Pregnancy already creates a tendency toward increased spinal curvature and ligament tension; this is quite likely one reason you’d like a massage right now, and I would much rather help alleviate that discomfort, instead of compounding it.

2.  Your belly and spine are well supported, but the trade-off is that the weight of your body and any added pressure from a massage therapist’s hands are translated directly into compressing your abdomen and uterus.

These concerns also apply to the cut-outs provided for your enlarged and tender breasts, which are likely not to appreciate either compression or dangling.

There is one thing the pregnancy massage table does well: it allows therapists to perform the same massage for prenatal clients that they do for non-pregnant clients, instead of learning a specialized treatment plan or advanced skills. Anyone using the table becomes a “prenatal specialist,” regardless of training or experience. However, the art & science of pregnancy massage is not just figuring out how to maneuver around your growing belly.

Pregnancy Massage Positioning

For these reasons, I do my 2nd and 3rd trimester massages in the sidelying position on my extra-wide massage table. I use about 8 pillows of various sizes and shapes to support the healthy alignment of your spine and pelvis. As your pregnancy progresses, we might also add a small pillow underneath your belly to support against gravity and reduce rolling forward.

Sidelying allows me to work your lower back without risk of increasing uterine pressure; it also provides perfect access to your quadratus lumborum and other muscles commonly stressed in pregnancy. The added benefit of doing massages this way is that together we will learn exactly which pillows go where to make you the most comfortable, and you can then try a similar setup at night to help you sleep more comfortably.

Another solution I frequently use for pregnancy massage requires even more pillows to create a semi-reclining position one of my clients calls a “princess chair.” This position avoids the problems that we might encounter if you were lying flat on your back for a long time, namely compression of your abdominal blood vessels by your heavy uterus, which could lead to dizziness, anxiety, and ultimately reduced blood flow to baby (no good!). Because you’re partially upright, this position can also be great if you have nausea or heartburn when you lie down. I love to use this position at the end of a session, for massaging your face, hands, belly and feet.

In the first trimester (or a little sooner or later; we’ll look at your needs individually) as well as postpartum, I always give you the choice of the standard face-down/ face-up positions, the above pregnancy-specific positions, or a combination. Some clients early in their pregnancy or in the first weeks postpartum have a lot of breast tenderness, so lying face-down is uncomfortable, but face-up is no problem. In these cases we’ll often do the massage in thirds: 1/3 on each side and 1/3 on your back.

There are related products comprised of specially-shaped cushions that make the million-pillow sidelying position a bit easier. I have tried several brands and found them comfortable and easy to work with. On my own holiday/ birthday wish list is the Sidelying Positioning System, designed by a respected pregnancy massage therapist who’s been at this even longer than I have, and constructed by a skilled maker of massage tables.

* When I say “pregnancy massage tables” in the title, I use quotation marks to indicate my disagreement with the term being applied to these products, as I consider them contraindicated for pregnancy.

What to Expect When You’re Expecting

August 1st, 2011

So this post is kind of a tester for my fancy new rating stars, to see if I can sort book reviews by rating.

Oh, this book. The book midwives love to hate. The book that scares unsuspecting parents. And, unfortunately, the book that manages to end up in the hands of pretty much everyone who even hears the word “pregnant.” And this is the difficult part for me: I can handle that some books exist and give bad advice, but it really bugs me that a book so bad can be so insanely popular!

The problem with WTEWYE is that it’s really about all the terrible scary things that could happen at each stage of development, to a small portion of the population. Hardly things the average parents needs to expect. For folks experiencing normal, healthy pregnancies, this book only serves to instill worry and guilt. It’s also very obstetrician-centric, with the assumption that readers have doctors and will labor in the hospital, so many midwifery clients have a hard time seeing themselves in the text. The focus on medical problems and doctors is especially concerning because the author has no medical training and in fact gets many details wrong. I did, however, give it half a star, because it might inspire some readers to seek other, better pregnancy resource guides.

Granted, I’ve not read the newest edition, but I have better things to do.

Like go see the ridiculous-looking “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” MOVIE , which is thankfully not a how-to DVD, but rather a romantic comedy featuring big-name actresses who get pregnant. Hijinks will surely ensue. So it is not actually based on the book, but I somehow expect (oh, bad puns) it to be just as awful. Those who know me know I secretly love awful romantic comedies, and the guilty-pleasure part of me that hoards chocolate and loves bad puns WILL go see this film…but only at the dollar theater.

Anything by Aviva Jill Romm

July 30th, 2011

I highly recommend anything and everything by Aviva Jill Romm. She is a midwife, herbalist, and easy-to-read author whose works are both useful to experienced herbalists and accessible to families.

  • Naturally Healthy Babies and Children is one of my favorite gifts for friends with kids. Lots of ideas for parents who want ideas for holistic ways to treat various earaches and snotty noses.
  • The Natural Pregnancy Book: Herbs, Nutrition and Other Holistic Choices covers pregnancy from the same perspective. It covers which herbs are great in pregnancy and which to avoid, whole-food based nutrition, and ways to alleviate common complaints. For some new parents, this could be their only pregnancy resource guide, and I would be just fine with that.
  • Natural Health After Birth: The Complete Guide to Postpartum Wellness is particularly amazing and useful, in part because there aren’t many books out there that address the postpartum period at all, but she covers it so well it would still be my favorite amongst hundreds. She covers social and practical approaches to getting support for the postpartum as well as herbs and dietary suggestions. I particularly love her discussion on postpartum care in various cultures and times.
  • Botanical Medicine for Women’s Health is Romm’s most recent book. As a midwife, I love this book, and consider it essential to my practice. However, it is written a bit more for practitioners than her other books, so I might not recommend it to herbal amateurs.
  • Vaccinations: A Thoughtful Parent’s Guide: How to Make Safe, Sensible Decisions about the Risks, Benefits, and Alternatives is, in my opinion, a well-balanced resource for making decisions about vaccines, though some might consider her a bit liberal. My one complaint is that it was written in 2001 and would do well to be updated.
  • ADHD Alternatives: A Natural Approach to Treating Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is the one book of Romm’s that I have not read. I would love to hear others’ opinions on this book!

To sum up my gush-fest, I highly recommend anyone in the women’s health field, as well as anyone who’s childbearing and/or parenting, check out Aviva Jill Romm’s books immediately. Or, if we’re pals, make sure I’m invited to your next gift-giving event.